I had a great post planned for today and I’m sidelining it because I’m so annoyed. I was tweeting the RHONY finale last night and asked some honest questions to Carole and she got REAL defensive and blocked me. Why go on a reality show and put your life out there if you’re so sensitive?!
We are not mean girls. Well, not deliberately mean. But we are also not suck-ups. So I’m not going to compliment you on your dress if it’s hideous, but I also won’t tell you if it’s hideous! (I would tell Ashley though, because that’s what #bestbitches do.) When it comes to tweeting the Real Housewives, I feel there’s a bit of fair game there. You choose to put your life on TV, you are completely aware of the editing process, and yet you get offended when you become polarizing. Me thinks you should thicken your skin before signing a Bravo contract. And it’s not like when we tweet you we are calling you a CU Next Tuesday. We see those tweets. They’re disgusting. I’m more interested in understanding why these women think it’s ok to act like a total asshole. Apparently, Carole thinks she can act however she wants… But let’s go back a few days. We all know from watching this season, that there’s no love lost between former friends, Carole and Luann.
Quick background, Carole went to Luann’s house and started hitting on Adam, the chef. Not only is he Luann’s help (we can’t agree that you can’t be allowed to date each other’s help, it’s not 1940 Mississippi), but he recently ended a relationship with Luann’s niece. Luann is not happy. Instead of having a grown-up conversation where Carole basically says, listen, I’m sorry you’re upset, but I’m an adult and can make my own decisions and Luann basically says, well I don’t agree with them, but you do you – they throw barbs at each other. Now here’s where it gets interesting. Carole became obsessed. Her entire Twitter feed becomes responses to her followers who tweet her about Luann. I was really annoyed. Not because I’m Team Luann (well I am, but that’s not my core annoyance), but because this isn’t the Carole I knew and loved. So I decided to respond. Here’s what went down:
#peaceout? Ummm “can’t say the same about another” is 100% a dig at Luann’s family. You’re a writer Carole, you should know better. And I don’t actually think my question was mean. I simply questioned why she’s not moving on – she seems very childish spending her days hate-tweeting on Luann. (OH and PS- we got hate tweets after that. So real mature Carole- play into Twitter users looking for a fight so then they can attack a person you don’t even know???) And here’s why I am so annoyed. If you read our Ranking of the NY Housewives, you know that in 2006, I chose “What Remains”, Carole’s well-written memoir about her life as a news producer, living with cancer-ridden husband, and the sudden loss of her close friends, for my book club. I SOBBED my way through the book. Carole was so smart and had an amazing career as a respected journalist. Her raw emotions as she attended multiple funerals of her nearest and dearest within weeks kept our whole book club enthralled until the last page. So when Carole came on the show, I felt I already knew her and I was excited for the intelligent, worldly person to bring something different to a group of socialites. That’s just not what happened. Carole has spent her three seasons on the show making sure everyone know she’s a cool, hip New Yorker who doesn’t have to work.
And just like that, there went a literary idol of mine. Carole became a guy-obsessed, admitted drug-user, superficial housewife. Initially I liked her on the show because she was cool and above the fray. I’m not sure if the producers told her she needed to up the drama to stay on the show, but this season, she became a brat. Plain and simple. So last night, as I was sipping on some rosé with my BFF Cat, I sent out a simple tweet.
Ok, now this just infuriates me. And here’s why. She obviously was a successful producer and has written one successful book. (It’s my understanding that her second book hasn’t fared as well and the proposed TV deal fell through.) I know how expensive NYC is and Carole lives a fabulous life. Why not fess up that when your husband died, you inherited money that allows you not to work? I don’t think Dorinda would have a hard time admitting that. So right or wrong, I responded.
Maybe it was a low-blow. I certainly am not calling her a gold-digger. Just asking her a question… and here is how she responds.
Followed by this:
SERIOUSLY? You are 51 years old, an Emmy-winning producer, acclaimed author. And you call me names then block me??? A couple comments: 1) I’m a huge believer in the more defensive you get, the guiltier you are. Which causes me to believe that Carole knows that her behavior is out of line and 2) I am not a moron. In fact, I have a great education, I’ve lived around the world, and I have a very good job. Name-calling is the lowest point of desperation when you have no true argument. It’s like, I’m going to distract you by trying to hurt your feelings instead of addressing your issue with me. And blocking us? At what point can you only surround yourself with “yes” folks who only support you? I have a lot of people in my life who tell me (solicited and unsolicited) when I’m acting like an asshole. I don’t block them.
My final comment is this: You can’t be both. You can’t be this amazing careered woman who changed the landscape of what it means to be a producer, what it mean to be a widow, one minute – and then a lazy, man-hungry downtowner the next. She even admits to being at a party and eating a gummy-bear laced with drugs. That is not cool. Does she think it makes her sound cool? Maybe we are better off not having to see Carole’s childish tweets on our feed, but I will say this to people who are on reality shows (aka clearly want to be famous), don’t bite the hand that feeds you…
Other notable blockings:
For literally NO known reason, Kristen Doute from Vanderpump Rules blocked Ashley on Instagram.
Really confused by that. And also, for no reason at all, Amanda Bynes blocked my friend Julia. Julia had never even tweeted at her. Celebs are really strange, guys. Or should I say “celebes”?
Tagged with: Andy Cohen • Bravo • Carole Radziwill • Luann de Lesseps • RHONY